11 Things Your Wedding Planner Won't Tell You

Event coordinators like godsends for many brides. Planning a wedding is hard work, and having someone to handle many of the details can take a massive weight off of any brides shoulders. However - even though she is a huge help, your event planner isn't going to tell you everything!


1.  Something is going to go wrong.
All the planning in the world cannot prevent at least one or two small mishaps on the big day. Accidents happen. Your event planner may not tell you this, but it's important that you expect the unexpected.

2.  If your parents are paying, you may not get the wedding you want.
Footing the bill sometimes gives parents a sense of entitlement in the decision-making process, and you may not feel like you can get in a word in edgewise. Having your parents help fund your wedding can be a huge help financially, but keep in mind that there might be some unexpected repercussions.

3.  You have to make decisions.
No planner wants to work with a bridezilla, but an indecisive bride can be just as challenging. It's your planners job to coordinate the overall event - it's your job to choose which color tablecloths you want.

4.  Your planner is serious about deadlines.
They're in the contract for a reason. Your event planner is experienced and knows when certain things need happen in order for the whole event to run smoothly. Deadlines are not the recommended day to handle a certain task. Make sure that things are done before the deadline hits.

5.  Your planner is not your personal assistant.
You have hired your planner to help you coordinate your wedding - not to wrangle your uncooperative bridesmaid or apologize to insulted family members on your behalf. Be careful not to involve your planner in your personal issues.

6.  You have to give your planner the opportunity to get to know you - and you have to cut her some slack.
Your coordinator is there to help you plan one of the biggest events of your life, but chances are you had never met her before you started working together. You can't expect your planner to make suggestions you will absolutely love if you don't give her the chance to get to know you first. Remember to be kind when she makes a suggestion you dislike.

7.  Your planner may have set vendors she has agreed to work with.
By signing a contract with your event coordinator, you may also be signing a contract to work with certain vendors. Find out if she does have agreements with certain vendors so you can decide if you are comfortable working with them before you sign.

8.  Your planner does not have to be licensed.
There is no specific training or licensing that event planners must undergo before they are allowed to practice professionally. Most event planners are experienced and talented coordinators, but it still important to check references and referrals before signing a contract.

9.  Planners get days off in the middle of the week.
Since most weddings happen on the weekend, event coordinators often have to take their days off in during the week. Hopefully your coordinator will let you know in advance which days she will be inaccessible, but keep this in mind in case you don't hear back from her immediately on a Wednesday.

10.  You are not your planner's only client.
Planning your wedding may be the most important thing in your life right now, but chances are your wedding coordinator is working with several other brides at the same time. Be courteous and conscious of the fact that your planner's life does not revolve around you.

11.  Your wedding is her livelihood.
Budget-conscious brides may understandably try to haggle their planners down to a more affordable price, but it's important to keep one very critical fact in mind: planning your wedding is your coordinator's livelihood. It's her way of putting food on the table. It's not wrong to try to save a few bucks, but don't be disrespectful or devaluing of your planner's service.

~ The WhereBridesGo.com Team

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Tips For Keeping Your Cool On Your Big Day

Your wedding day is finally here! After months of planning and seemingly endless preparations, you are more than ready to sit back, relax, and let the day take its course. It's all smooth sailing from here!

As lovely as this sounds, very few brides actually get to experience this blissfully relaxing scene. Most weddings are filled with last-minute preparations that were not finished ahead of time and coordinating all of the last-minute details - and that doesn't even take into account the time each bride needs to get herself ready! Not only that, but brides are often overcome and overwhelmed by the fact that they are about to take the plunge and officially - legally - tie themselves to their new husbands.

With so much to think about on the day of the wedding, it's no wonder that many brides find themselves stressed and a bit frazzled. It shouldn't have to be that way, though; you will only live your wedding day once, and you should take the opportunity to relax and enjoy the moment. Here are a few great suggestions for staying calm on your wedding day, courtesy of your friends at WhereBridesGo.com!

Tip #1: Delegate, Delegate, Delegate
The brides who are the most stressed out are the ones who try to take care of everything themselves. Weddings are (usually) big events - you can't expect to handle everything on your own and stay completely calm. Make things easier on yourself by delegating certain last-minute tasks to your bridal party or family/friends you trust. Do yourself a favor and talk to these people in advance to verify that they will be willing to take on some extra day-of responsibilities. By clearing this ahead of time, you won't have to feel bad about asking them on your big day.

Tip #2: Embrace Your Routine
If you have a standard morning routine, don't skip it on your big day. If you normally go for a run, do some yoga, or enjoy a long shower or soak in the bathtub, it's important to give yourself time to do it on the morning of your wedding, too. This will give the day a sense of normalcy that will help keep you calm.

Tip #3: Take Deep Breaths
As cliché as it sounds, taking deep breaths actually works wonders. It forces you to slow down, oxygenates your body, and gives you a chance to clear your head and regroup. Any time you start to feel yourself getting nervous and/or upset about something, take a few deep breaths and delegate the task to someone else.

Tip #4: Don't Be Afraid To Be Nervous
Getting married is a big deal! Our culture puts so much emphasis on engagements being a time of excitement - and they are. But they are also a time when women and men are planning to ceremoniously and legally tie their lives together, and that's a step that should not be taken lightly. A lot of brides get upset if they catch themselves feeling nervous about the wedding, thinking that something must be wrong. Nervousness doesn't mean that something is "wrong," however; it's simply a natural part of the process.


Tip #5: Let It Be
At the end of the day, no amount of planning and preparation can guarantee that everything will go perfectly. Mistakes are bound to be made and timing is bound to be off by at least a few seconds here and there. You won't be able to fix everything - nor should you be. You will be able to keep your cool on your wedding day if you learn to accept things that you cannot change. There's no point in letting it stress you out if you can't do anything about it!

Tip #6: Don't Try To Make Everyone Happy
Trying to please everyone is quite possibly the biggest dilemma any bride will face. Weddings are typically big family events, and everyone in the family seems to think it is their right to inform you exactly how they think it should go. The sooner you accept that it is humanly impossible to make everyone happy, the sooner you can stop driving yourself crazy.

Tip #7: Give Yourself Plenty Of Time
Being late or feeling rushed puts a huge amount of stress on everyone involved. Give yourself a break by getting ready with plenty of time to spare. Getting your hair and makeup done early can prevent the stress of worrying about whether or not you're going to be ready in time - and gives you more time to take pictures with your bridesmaids!

You Can Do This!
By following these simple suggestions, you will be able to greatly reduce your stress levels on your big day. If you do catch yourself feeling stressed, don't get down on yourself for it - simply take a few deep breaths and allow yourself time to reset. It's your wedding day... give yourself time to enjoy it!

~ The WhereBridesGo.com Team

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