A Wedding Is Only One Day - Strong Relationships, Part 1

It's so easy to become completely wrapped up by the process of wedding planning. Many of us begin dreaming about our wedding day from a very young age, and several years of hopes, wishes, and plans can create some pretty high expectations. By the time we actually do get engaged, our minds are practically bursting with ideas for creating the perfect "big day." 




In the midst of all the dress shopping, the appointments with the florist, and the gift registries, it's important to set aside to think about what a wedding really signifies. By saying "I do," you're pledging your life to your future husband. As a married woman, your life will no longer be completely your own. Your career, your family, your home... Every major aspect of your life will in some way be impacted by your emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and legal ties to your new husband.

Being married will impact your life in more ways than you can possibly imagine. All your future major life decisions must forever be made in conjunction with another person - all because you said, "Yes!" 

A wedding is only one day, but marriage is for life. There's nothing wrong with taking countless trips to the bridal shop and spending hours on Pinterest shopping for the perfect unique bridesmaid gift, but it's important not to let this whirlwind distract you from the true portents of marriage. 

Of course you want your wedding day to be absolutely marvelous, but you have to remind yourself that ultimately, your wedding day is just that - a day. Marriage, on the other hand, will hopefully be for life. As you plan your wedding, don't forget to set aside time to continue developing and strengthening your relationship with your fiance. Your wedding day will always be a constant source of joyous memories, but only if you and your new husband can maintain a strong, healthy connection.

How do you do that, then? How do you make time for each other in the midst of all the craziness of wedding planning?

Never fear! The team at WhereBridesGo.com has plenty of great ideas for helping you to strengthen and solidify your relationship. Watch for the second of this two-part blog series: "But Marriage Is For Life - Strong Relationships, Part 2." We'll be doing an entire blog feature on tips for securing a long-lasting, supportive, healthy relationship. 

See you next week!



~ The WhereBridesGo.com Team

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Our story ... married 15 years and counting!

I remember September 11, 1999 like it was yesterday. It was a cool day in Colorado Springs ... and it was our wedding day. The wedding was absolutely perfect ... 4 PM in the afternoon at the GORGEOUS Air Force Academy Chapel. We had around 125 guests, a small bridal party, an intimate ceremony, and then a HUGE party at the Marriott Hotel.

Mike & Sandy's Wedding ~ September 11, 1999
Mike was an instructor at the US Air Force Academy and I was an engineer building web-based training at BAE Systems/Lockheed Martin. We were "older" for our first marriage ... just the way we wanted it.  I was 31 and Mike was 35. We had also both just completed our Master's degrees at the University of Colorado, Colorado Springs. And believe it or not, "back in the day" (which doesn't seem so long ago), the Internet was nowhere close to what it is today.

While planning the wedding, I remember browsing online using search engines like Mamma.com, Dogpile.com, and AskJeeves.com. Google was around, but it was in its infancy in terms of users. People were still trying to figure out what "Google" meant. Pretty crazy, huh?

There was really only one wedding planning web site at the time, that was theKnot. It was very frustrating trying to find wedding resources online in 1999 because theKnot was only major market focused back then. If I wanted a photographer from Denver, LA, or New York,  no problem ... but there were really no online resources for the Colorado Springs area.

So ... I decided to build something to fix this problem right after my wedding.

SpringsWeddings.com was born in 1999!
(We now have 27 sites in our WhereBridesGo.com network)

 

Fast forward 15 years.

Mike and I just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary!

My husband planned a SURPRISE trip back to Colorado Springs to celebrate. We went back to the Air Force Academy Chapel at exactly 4PM on September 11, 2014. It was a beautiful as ever. Believe it or not, there was a wedding rehearsal going on and the SAME wedding planner was still there! We took a photo with her, of course.

I can't get over how romantic is was ... and how amazing MIKE IS for surprising me with it all.

15 Year Wedding Anniversary and Our Surprise Trip Back to Colorado Springs



A Team for Life
Mike retired from the Air Force in 2009 (he spent 24 years in) and decided to come to work with me full-time on the business I had started 10 years prior. When he retired, we moved to Lake of the Ozarks, MO to be near my family and we now work together EVERY day from our home office.

Our now 15 year old company is called  MSW Interactive Designs. In addition to the wedding planning sites and our WhereBridesGo.com retail store, we are a website design and social media company. We have two full time employees who come to our home office every day and run the social media side of our business, another part time social media team member who works remotely, plus another full time employee who works from Virginia helping me with the website design and maintenance for all of our wedding sites and our other client business websites.

Who Handles WhereBridesGo.com?
The WhereBridesGo.com daily operations are run by my Mom (Jane) and my Step-Dad (Duane) out of St. Louis, Missouri. Trust me ... you couldn't be in better hands for your wedding supplies and accessories. They are not just 9-5 employees ... they helped me build the business from the ground up and they care about each and every bride that comes to the site. They personally handle every single detail of every single order ... and this is what separates us from the hundreds of other wedding supply stores online today.  My parents are the coolest people ... ever!


It has been amazing working with my husband, my parents, and my small team of talented employees growing our WhereBridesGo.com wedding supplies website, our wedding planning websites, and our web design & social media business.

I couldn't ask for a better partner in life and a better team for my business!

Thank you, thank you, thank you for trusting my  team with the most important day of your life. I hope when you fast forward 15 years, you will look back on your amazing day with beautiful memories, a grateful heart, and that you too will look FORWARD to the next 15 years with YOUR partner for life.

~Sandy Waggett, Owner
WhereBridesGo.com & MSW Interactive Designs LLC

8 Questions To Ask Your DJ or Band

The music that's played during your wedding reception can make or break your celebration. How much your guests participate will largely depend on the music playing, and you'll be reminded of your reception every time one of your songs comes on the radio for years to come. 

Different bands' and DJs' overall approaches will vary greatly from entertainer to entertainer. Regardless of whether you choose to hire a band or a DJ, you'll want to be absolutely sure they'll be able to meet (and exceed!) your expectations. Asking your potential bands or DJs the following questions will help give you a good idea of what type of performance they'll be able to provide - and whether or not they will be a good fit for your wedding and reception.

How many hours of performance time are included in the agreement? 
Make sure you and your band or DJ are on the same page about how many hours of music they'll be providing. Verify that they'll be covering as many hours as you need!

How many breaks do you normally take?
Determining how much downtime there will be will enable you to come up with a plan to fill the silence during their breaks. Will your band have recorded music to play during their breaks, or will you need to provide those extra tracks?

What do you typically wear while playing weddings?
Some bands or DJs may not supply their own tuxes if they don't typically wear them during their performances. If that's the case, they may incorporate bills for their formal attire into their musical contracts. Make sure you know in advance if you'll be expected to pay for their formal wear!

What do you need to set up?
Find out how much time and space the band or DJ will need so you can clear it with the venue coordinator. You'll also need to determine who will be in charge of providing any extra equipment needed, such as special lighting or props.

What is the typical wedding play list? 
Professional bands or DJs may have a go-to playlist that typically works well for weddings and receptions. If you have specific songs that you do or do not want played at your reception, be sure to discuss it up front so you are on the same page.

Will band leader or DJ act as MC for the reception?
Never make any assumptions. If you want the band leader or DJ to MC your event, make sure they know that you're counting on them to fill this role.

What is your back up plan?
Life is what happens after you make plans. Make sure whoever you hire has a backup plan in the event of an emergency.  
What do you need from me and the venue?
This is where you find out exactly what your end of the bargain entails. Will they provide all of their own equipment, or are you expected to bring something? Do they have specific stage requirements you will have to accommodate? How many electrical outlets do they need? Will you need to coordinate with the venue to make sure they have everything the band or DJ needs?

Talking through these logistics now will help you ensure that you have everything you'll need for a smooth performance on your wedding day. Best of luck to you and your fiance!

Were these tips helpful? We'd appreciate your feedback! Help us out and leave us a comment below.

~ The WhereBridesGo.com Team

Where brides go®  ... for what brides love!
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The Ring Bearer: Your Little Hero

If you have a soft spot for kiddos, or if someone close to you has a young boy between three and eight years old, your wedding won't be complete without a ring bearer! Being a ring bearer is a special honor in a young boy's life, and its responsibilities should not be taken lightly. If you're planning on having a ring bearer in your wedding, consider these tips to make his job (and yours!) much easier.

Give Him A Buddy

You and your fiance will be wrapped up in your own worlds on the day of the wedding, so pick a groomsman to be the ring bearer's buddy on the big day. The groomsman can remind the ring bearer to use the restroom before the ceremony begins and can be in charge of holding the ring pillow until it's time for the young man to walk down the aisle. Assure the ring bearer that his buddy will be there for him all day in case he needs anything.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

It's important that your ring bearer feel confident in his role. Make sure he fully understands his responsibilities well before the ceremony begins. It's a good idea to have his parents seated in or near the front row, so they can be easily seen from the altar. After walking down the aisle, the ring bearer can either sit with his parents or stand with his buddy. If your ring bearer is nervous or very young, someone can escort him down the aisle.

Manage Your Expectations

Looking for something truly unique?
Check out this postcard ring pillow!
Remember, your ring bearer is just a child. Even if his responsibilities have been thoroughly explained to him ahead of time, accidents can happen. Many couples choose to put fake rings on the ring pillow and have the best man carry the real rings in his pocket for safekeeping. 

Don't Have A Young Man? Improvise!

While ring bearers were traditionally young boys, couples are now getting creative with their ring bearer options. It's not uncommon for couples to ask a young girl to be their ring bearer, and now some couples are even having their dogs or other pets act as the ring bearer!

What are your plans for a ring bearer? We'd love to hear!

~ The WhereBridesGo.com Team

Where brides go®  ... for what brides love!
Connect with WhereBridesGo.com online!