Some brides don't mind letting Mom plan every detail of the wedding along with them, while others prefer that she stay out of it. If you happen to be the latter, try to find at least one place where you can ask for your mother's input. She will feel included, but you aren't giving her free reign to make all of the decisions.
Finding your wedding dress is a great place to ask for Mom's advice. It can be a very special time for the two of you. Another gesture that will include her is to invite her to a spa day or luncheon before the wedding with you and your bridesmaids. Feeling like she is a part of the wedding means a lot to most mothers, and it doesn't have to take a lot of effort to make that happen. Small gestures can go as far as big ones.
Incorporate Her Gown
Wearing your mother's wedding dress is a nice way to pay homage to her, but that isn't always possible. If you prefer to buy a bridal gown of your own, you may be able to incorporate a part of Mom's wedding day look into yours. Wear the veil or jewelry from her special day for example, or have a handkerchief made from a swatch of her gown. Even if it's not completely visible to everyone else, the two of you will know.
A picture's worth a thousand words! You definitely want to make sure that you and your mother have at least one portrait taken together, but there are some other pictures that you can have the photographer capture that have lots of sentimental meaning. You can recreate a pretty photo from her wedding album, or even a picture of the two of you from your childhood. Candid shots of her helping you get ready for the ceremony are lovely, or you can get ready privately and do a "first look" photo with Mom.
The bride usually has a father/daughter dance at the reception, and the groom has a mother/son dance. There is absolutely no reason why there can't be a mother/daughter dance too! Whether it's a slow song that you can hug each other to or an upbeat tune where you can both really kick up your heels, your guests will love it, and so will your mother.
Say A Public Thank You
Saying thank you to your mother for all the things she did to get you to your wedding day is a no-brainer, but doing it in front of all of your guests will happily surprise her. Write something heartfelt in the wedding program, or make a toast just for her at the reception. You can even make her feel like royalty in her own seat with a "Mother of the Bride" sign on her chair at dinner.
In addition to incorporating the ideas above into your wedding planning, you can find many thoughtful mother of the bride gifts to give to your mom as a keepsake from your special day. WhereBridesGo.com not only has wonderful things for her, but also for Dad, the groomsmen, the flower girl and ring bearer, and gifts for bridesmaids at our online wedding accessory store. Take a look. You'll find something special for every special person involved in your wedding day.
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